Tuesday, February 21, 2006

A Lesson Learned




I pretty much could be anybody, your neighbor, your college roommate, your worst nightmare. But I'm really just an nobody, an average ordinary middle age woman with a blog. A blog about Anderson Cooper. I've always wanted to remain anonymous in my blogging - it's easier for me to write this way. I also like the freedom it gives me to talk about my husband, my kids, my life, my obsession without embarrassing anyone. (Be patient, I'm getting to how this all ties into Anderson Cooper.) This weekend someone on the internet apparently didn't like the nice little private, anonymous world I have created for myself. They acquired some private information they thought related to me and posted it on a website. Maybe by accident, maybe to embarrass me, maybe so I would marvel at their detective abilities. Who knows. What I do know is I didn't like it at all. This nice little balance that I had worked out in my life that allowed me to be free to write, without worry about how it effected my family, my friends, my clients was in danger of crumbling around me and my keyboard. (Now we get to how this relates to Mr. Cooper.)
I try to learn lessons from events like this. Sometimes it takes years to see how the lesson applies to my everyday living, sometimes it is almost instantaneous. That was the case with this lesson. I came across some Anderson information today that I would normally have wanted to share in my blog, immediately. Interesting information, private information, probably true, possibly not, but interesting none the less. I studied this information, which included a picture of Anderson and his alleged significant other. Also included were some quotes from a supposed first hand source, saying Anderson acknowledged his significant other in their conversation. Don't bother to scroll down and look for the picture. The picture isn't here, nor is the accompanying story. As I said, I learned a lesson this weekend. If Anderson Cooper wants us to know who he loves, who he sleeps with, who is there for him when he needs someone to lean on, he'll tell us. And the same goes for me.

6 comments:

Barbara said...

Well said. Well done. None of us bloggers want to be exposed more than we chose to be. I include Anderson in that. He gives us so much of himself. We don't need more than that. I am happy he has love. I don't need to know more than that.

the book faerie said...

you are incredibly gracious.

i've never understood why people feel the need to speculate on public figures. it's not your life; it's none of your business. you don't own the person.

and, chances are, they wouldn't be happy if folks started digging around about them and posting personal information!

Mathlete said...

It's a shame you were used as bait in an effort to ignite a sense of gleeful excitement to an otherwise pathetic soul.For what it's worth, you're now personally appraised of that evil slant accompanying most internet activities. There's also a silver lining to this lesson. Your birdseye view as a victim of private, disparaging remarks has saved Anderson's reputation. That '05 photo and cooresponding blog remark provides about as much viable insight into AC's personal life as the dignified manner (NOT) in which a snake-in-the-grass posts information collected to profile you.

Athenais said...

Deftly handled!
I believe that Anderson gives us the news. He presents the world to us through his job. His private life is not...news. Anderson is a loving person, and he deserves to be loved. But that is only his and his significant other's business. Good for you. You are better than the gossip mongers who only print what they do for the sake of their own egos and careers.

Mathlete said...

Grandiose bows of praise as to Anderson's work speaks volumes on numerous fronts. Still, a travesty remains in the realization that loosely gathered gossip is assumed the truth whether or not receipt of the info is personally welcomed. For crying out loud, it's a photo of two men looking in the same direction. No hidden promises nor hearts on fire undertones. Has the internet created communities of gullible ducks? Appears so...so sad.

Linnea said...

Beautifully said. Just because Anderson is a well-known public figure doesn't mean that we have the right to know everything about him.