Saturday, May 07, 2011

Happy Mother's Day

Anderson and his mom, Gloria Vanderbilt

Sunday is Mother's Day. My mom's been gone 5 years now and hardly a day goes by that I don't think of her. If you are lucky enough to still have your mother in your life, I hope you honor her in some way this weekend and consider yourself fortunate to be able to do so. This weekend we will be focusing on Anderson and his mom, but the ATA Team would like to wish all mothers a Happy Mother's Day!

Wendy Goodman authored a book about Anderson's mom, The World of Gloria Vanderbilt; and Anderson penned the forward ~

Anderson, also, wrote an Article for Vogue about his mom; just prior to the release of the book ~

A few photos from The World of Gloria Vanderbilt ~

This past year wasn't the first time Anderson has written about his mom. There's the classic April 2005 Details magazine article - Talking Sex With Mom ~

My mom is Gloria Vanderbilt, and she's been in the public eye since she was born.
She's always been extraordinarily beautiful, and even as a kid, I knew men found her irresistible, but I was always happily hazy on the details.
When I was about 8, I remember looking at a Richard Avedon book about beauty, and there was a striking photo of a young woman staring seductively into the camera.
It was my mother, though to me the woman had no relation to the person I knew.
That wasn't my mom.

My mom has never been a typical mother. She's very cool, and way ahead of her time.
On report day at school, she'd show up dressed in a purple beaver-skin coat and matching stockings. Where she found a purple beaver I have no idea.
She's not the milk-and-cookies type. Growing up, the only snack food we had in the house was Carr's water biscuits. You know, the dry crackers people use for cheese? Yum.
I always knew she was different, but until I read her romance memoir, I never really saw her as a sexual being.
(Click here for the full article.)

Gloria keeps a cardboard cutout of Anderson in her apartment. Perhaps this 2003 video explains why?

And the fact that Gloria was hounding Anderson about "signing the card" may be because --

"Gloria's son Stan said recently, 'She probably never told you this, but when, years ago, the house in Southampton had to be sold, the IRS got a decree to see her safe-deposit boxes in Southampton because they probably thought they were full of diamonds. My mother asked me if I would meet them at the bank. I went and they brought out the boxes, and in these boxes were cards and drawings that Chris and I had done over the years for her. That was all that was in there, packed in there. That shows what she valued.'" - from The World of Gloria Vanderbilt

Please check back tomorrow night for more on Anderson and his mom...

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ACAnderFan said...

Great post. I love all the pictures of Anderson and his mommy. The Vogue article is a good read as is the book its about.

The clip of Anderson talking to his mom about mother's day is a classic. I can't believe he didn't sign the card! I love that Gloria kept bringing that up.

Chris said...

I'm also familiar with being without your mom on Mother's day. I lost mine a little over a year ago. She had a stroke about 4:00 AM Christmas, 2009. By mid January she was gone. Sometimes I can't believe she's really gone; it doesn't seem real. I do think of her everyday and sometimes I don't think a minute goes by that I don't think of her.

For all of you who still have your mmom, enjoy every moment and make this and every Mother's Day special. Some day each and every minute you spent with her will be special and you'll long to relive them.

For those of you who are moms yourselves, congratulations and Happy Mother's Day.

susan said...

Sorry for those that no longer have their mothers. My mother is still a live, but she was a very bad mother. I do call and send her a card. For those that had a good relationship with their mothers cherish those memories.
Where was the first photo takin of Anderson and Gloria?

Phebe said...

I started a ATA back in November of 2005 as a way to deal with my mother's declining health. I felt her slipping away a little more everyday and as her caregiver it was beginning to overwhelm me. I knew I was meeting her needs and the needs of my family but I needed a little something just for me. So when I had everyone settled for the night I'd fire up the computer and share my opinions about CNN & AC360. At first it was just my circle of friends that read and commented but gradually as Anderson became more well known our readership grew too. I think of ATA as another little gift that my mother gave me, even though she really never knew it.
My mother passed in June 2006 and I don't think one single day has gone by that I don't think of her, wish I could talk with her or just get a hug. My mom gave the greatest hugs.
I hope you all have a wonderful Mother’s Day. Mine will be spent with my husband and kids and I’ll cherish every minute, something I learned from my mom.

Wonz said...

@Chris. I'm so sorry for your loss and while the wound is less raw as time passes, I don't think it ever completely heals. Like I said, my mom has been gone 5 years, but my father has been gone for 19 years and I think of him every day as well. I have a lot of special memories and a loving family and that helps.

My mom never liked Mother's Day and Father's Day -- and I never fully appreciated her line of thinking at the time; she said children are to honor their parents every day, not on one particular day a year, and that the "holiday" just makes if hard for those who have lost their mother/father. I now understand how wise those words truly were.

@Susan - the first photo of Anderson and his mom was taken at her book party at Ralph Lauren this past fall.

Anonymous said...

@Phebe: So sorry to hear about the loss of your dear mother.
I truly believe that ATA has been a "release" in some small way for you, as it has been for many of us who contribute on a regular basis.
I'm quite certain your mother has read every post and shared your thoughts.
Happy Mohter's Day!

Anonymous said...

Hugs for all the moms out there and sympathy for those whose moms have gone.

Thanks, Phebe and the entire ATA team for this website. It's awesome. Phebe, did your mom know what she indirectly started?

Lots of neat stuff in today's post. From Anderson's baby photos - he still makes that expression and sometimes on 360 - to the Gloria photos - she has class and style and I've nver seen the ladder one before - to the Mother's Day video - perhaps Anderson at his most uncomfortable and the reason why I thought he might have lived in Atlanta for a while.

But I really love the quote from Stan about the safety deposit box; would have loved to have seen the look on everyone's faces.


Broadway Bound Bunny said...

I think Gloria is fantastic despite what some people may think, she started her own business and didn't care what people said.

Anderson's excuse of there's a war on is totally Anderson and I love it. How many guys can really use it to explain why they ca't visit their mother.

Anonymous said...

Phebe, thanks for telling us how you came to start this blog. Even though it was a difficult time for you, we all appreciate the fact that you used Anderson to help you with taking care of your mother.

I lost my mom 2 years ago, so I hope everyone can enjoy the day with their mothers.

Thank you

Chris said...

@Phebe "my mom gave the greatest hugs!"

That's one of the things I miss most - hugs. Just about every day when I came downstairs I'd wrap my arms around her and get/give a hug. Sometimes now I try to imagine what it felt like to make myself feel better. I try to imagine her saying "goodnight" too, but it's getting harder and harder to remember her voice.

The comment about Mother's Day and Father's Day making those without their parents feel bad. I suppose it's true, but I'd hate to think of not having a special day to honor them. Yes we miss them everyday after we lose them, but the alternative isn't perfect either. If there weren't one special day set aside, I think it would be something we'd always be putting off till tomorrow. In the end we'd might go years without doing it. Often things we put off dont get done at all. We always feel we have plenty of time. We don't want to talk about it because it means admitting that one day they'll be gone. That's too painful so we ignore it and remain silent until the sad day comes and then we regret all the things we put off or didn't say or do.

Wonz said...

@Chris -- I understand where you are coming from with your comment about my mom not liking Mother's/Father's Day. She came from a large loving family and I have been blessed with that, too. We always celebrated both days and even today, my sister and I visited her grave and our grandma's grave and laid yellow roses on them. We cried, we laughed and talked about her a lot today with very fond memories.

I think my mom's point was not to honor one's parents only one day a year and then check it off until the next year; as some people do. My mom lost her father very suddenly and learned just how fleeting life can be. She taught us to celebrate the blessings of family and loved ones every day. There were lots of hugs, kisses and "I love you"s -- and although she's gone -- that tradition lives on through her children and grandchildren. I've found that the fondest memories are of the every day moments and not the once a year celebrations.

And yes, she gave good hugs -- and I'll always rememer how soft her hands were....